There is a lot of misery, death and confusion in the world this week. Our Republic is in peril. Work, if we have it, grinds us down, bills pile up while the bank account shrinks. There are many things, hugely important things and trivial things, which can distract us. But recently three of our brothers lost their mothers in as many days, and this year far too many of us have lost loved ones to cancer and other causes. Sorrowful losses such as those serve to remind us that despite what we may have to deal with on a daily basis, there are people that we should never take for granted, people we should appreciate, and that we should savor every moment we have with them.
Jaybear wrote me the following after the death of his mother;
I went down to visit my mom just a week ago, it was going to be a contentious trip as I was going down to talk to her about getting some live-in help in the house to help her out. She wouldn’t have anything to do with it, and the subject of a nursing home never came up. The night before I left to come back home, she and I had dinner together…just we two….I went out to pick up dinner and when I came back she had set the table just like she did 10 -15 years ago. She had slipped mentally pretty dramatically in the last few years, and when I walked in and saw that table and her, it was like I went back in time. She and I had dinner and talked for about two hours like we used to do all the time….hadn’t done that with her in years also….the funny thing I noticed was that she seemed younger, able to carry on a conversation and was animated like she was in her younger days. I also noticed that she had this kind of aura around her, not a light or anything but just a glow or something. It was a wonderful night, I got to have one more long winded conversation with her just like old times….I left the next day and something just told me that that was the last time I would see her.
My mother went to heaven today, September 10th……
I thank God for that blessed last conversation with her, I will treasure that always.
Jaybear was lucky in that he was able to have that last conversation with his mom. Not everyone gets the chance, and far too often things that should have been said are left unsaid, and things that never should have been said are left as the last memory a loved one will have of you.
Life is not guaranteed. Each time you part ways may be the last. Never allow yourself to regret that you didn’t see them enough, or that you didn’t tell them you loved them enough.
Appreciate the loved ones that you have while you still have them in this life.